Before you break up with someone, there’s usually a moment where you think, “This isn’t going to work.” So when Reddit user u/shazbotabf asked, “What was the exact moment you realized your relationship was doomed?”, many people shared their heartbreaking stories. Here’s what they had to say:
1.
“When he admitted, with a sigh of relief, that he’d had sex with my sorority mate while I was away on business, he immediately hugged me and told me how much better he felt. I knew we would grow together from that moment on. It was one of those movie moments where the camera should have panned from his relieved smile during the hug to my dead eyes.”
2.
“I was at a party by myself and ran into a friend of a friend. Her: ‘My boyfriend goes to your school!’ Me: ‘Oh, I probably know him, it’s a smaller school!’ Her: ‘His name is (insert my boyfriend’s name here).’ Instagram trash. I felt awkward when I had to sit right next to him at the same friend’s wedding reception a few years later. It’s always the boring weddings where you need the open bar the most.”
—u/LilGuardDuck
3.
“One of the moments that made me realize my first boyfriend was a total loser was when I asked him why he never looked around before crossing the street, and he told me that if a car hit him, he’d sue them and take his life. I asked him how he was going to do that with his body all mangled, and he said he’d just turn around and look at his license plate. A real winner.”
4.
“When we were returning home after a date, he jumped into the bushes so his ex wouldn’t see us together.”
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5.
“I was about six months pregnant and we had a really bad ice storm. The power went out so my fiancé asked me to go to his mom’s house because she had a wood stove and it was really cold. He told me he would show up later and he was going to drop off all the animals (horses, pigs, dogs). Well, about four hours went by and he still hadn’t shown up and he wasn’t answering his phone so I decided to drive over there – it was practically right around the corner anyway. When I pulled into the driveway I saw my best friend’s car was there. I remember thinking he must have just come to check on me. Well, we all know where this is going. I opened the door and not only was there power because we had a generator that I didn’t know about, but there they were, naked on the couch, rubbing each other. I’m a very happy single mom now.”
6.
“The phone rang from an area code eight hours away. It was his parents’ area code, so I answered it. ‘Who the fuck do you think you are, texting my girlfriend like you’ve been doing?’ She had been dating this guy for four months while I thought he was recovering from heart surgery at his parents’ house. We had been dating for four years. Both I and the other guy dumped her after a long conversation. He seemed like a cool guy. I’d buy him a beer if I ever saw him.”
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7.
“When my first wife (now ex) said, ‘If we have a baby, we’ll solve all our problems.'”
8.
“We would go weeks without seeing each other due to work or scheduling conflicts, and I would want to jump on him at every opportunity when we were finally alone. He resented this. I hadn’t seen him for almost a month, and when he picked me up for a date, I was all affectionate and offered to give him a blowjob in the car. He laughed and said, ‘My urge was out of control,’ and that ‘maybe they have pills for that, to calm me down. ‘ Ssssss! I’m out. I’m finally with a guy who completely matches my urge and is just as wild as I am, and happily so! (I don’t think I’m even wild; I’m actually normal and lucky enough to have a great love for sex.)”
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9.
“When he was willing to spend $13.50 on a bucket of popcorn and a large soda for himself at the movies, but couldn’t afford to buy me a bottle of water, that pretty much sums up the rest of the relationship. I just didn’t realize it soon enough.”
10.
“I had been out at a bar having a night with my friends and my girlfriend. Then we drove over to my girlfriend’s house. The next morning, I charged my phone and my friends called. Their choice of words was, ‘Get out of that house right now. ‘ It turns out that after I left the bar with my girlfriend, some girls came up to my friends and were like, ‘Do you know that girl your friend just hung out with has a boyfriend? ‘ To which they replied, ‘Yeah, that IS her boyfriend… ‘ She replied, ‘No, I know who her boyfriend is; that’s not him. ‘”
—u/I prefer aflan
eleven.
“When my ex married someone behind my back. We dated for three years and he married someone else. I found out the day before he got married. I called him and asked him, but he denied it. The next day he was married. After that, I found out he had been dating that person for a year, the same amount of time he was dating me.”
12.
“When I told him my dad was in the hospital after multiple seizures, he just said, ‘That sucks,’ before changing the subject again and never asking how my dad was doing afterward.”
—u/livelongandreddit
13.
“It wasn’t as dramatic as some others, but I was helping him write a cover letter for his CV for an assistant manager job. The store he was applying to had a unique startup story, and he took pride in that and the image it projected to his customers. His cover letter was basically, ‘Here’s my shitty CV. Please consider me for the position. ’ That was it. He had no idea how to sell himself, no idea how to use the ad and job description to show that he had skills that correlated with the position. He didn’t even bother to research the company. I just sat there and walked him through the process. In the end, I practically wrote it for him by telling him what to say. And I realized that this was how it was always going to be: me supporting him through everything, helping him take baby steps in life while he focused on his shitty band.”
14.
“When my wife burst into tears one night saying, ‘The only reason I married you is because you asked me to.'”
—u/Moonwaffler
fifteen.
And finally, “My girlfriend (at the time) said she was going out to a party with some people from work. She had even introduced me to one of her (male) coworkers that night. I thought it a little odd that I wasn’t invited, but showing how confident I was in myself, I didn’t make a deal and told her I would see her later that night. As the night progressed, I hadn’t heard from her, so I went over to her place. She had previously given me a key to her apartment. The exact moment I realized it was when I put the key in the lock and heard her voice exclaim “NO!” This was followed by her appearing at the door, completely naked. Normally, this would be a good thing. But this was because I had interrupted her while she was fucking the same guy she had introduced me to that night. But other than that, it was a great night.”
Have you ever experienced a particular moment in your previous relationship when you realized it was doomed to fail? Tell us what happened in the comments below.